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Later,
my mother travelled to England to train as a nurse. Two stories
epitomised for me the fiery spirit of my mother. At customs in Dover,
the officials demanded exorbitant customs duties on two wine bottles
she had in her possession.
As
my mother couldnt afford to pay, and as they wanted to confiscate
them, she smashed the bottles on the floor in front of them and
said: "If I cant have them, neither can you!"
On
another occasion, an extremely irate nurse attacked my mother, hitting
her in the face and cursing her because she was German. My mother
reached over and pulled a bone out of one of the skeletons used
in nursing training, and knocked her assailant over the head!
During
her nursing training, my mother won a National Award and we
have the photograph of her being presented with this award by
the then Prime Minister of Great Britain, Harold Macmillan.
(This is the Prime Minister Macmillan famous for his "winds
of change" speech).
My mother met my father through her nursing. As my Dads
father was dying, my Father travelled up from Rhodesia for a
last visit. It was after the death of his father, that my Dad
met Mum.
My brother, Derek, was born in England, and I was born in South
Africa. Dad was a Hotel Manager and Catering Manager. At one
time he catered for the King of England and the Royal family
at the Victoria Falls Hotel. In London, he was the Catering
Manager at the American Embassy. He also catered for the Rhodesian
Prime Minister and President at the Bulawayo Club.
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Prime
Minister Harold MacMillan presenting Mum a National Award
for Nursing.
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I
particularly remember my Grandfathers visit. My mothers
father had been in the Africa Corp under Rommel.
When
my Dad and Grandfather met, they reminisced about World War II and
the North African desert war where they had fought one another
on opposite sides! One particularly memorable incident which impressed
me, was that on Christmas Eve they observed a spontaneous cease-fire,
with the German and British forces singing Christmas carols to one
another. On Christmas Day they walked across the no-mans land
and exchanged ration packs and showed one another photos of their
families! My father had an extremely high respect for Rommel and
the Africa Corp, and called them "an honourable enemy",
and the North African campaign as "the last gentlemans
war."

Mum with her father who fought in the
Africa Corp against my dad in
the 8th Army.
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Robert and Ingrid Hammond
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I remember
my mother as the life and soul of the party, when my parents went
to dances, fancy dress parties or had friends around to play monopoly,
bridge and chess.
One
funny incident, which shows how times change: When my Mother and
Father (who was quite a lot older than Mum) arrived at a hotel in
Laingsburg in the Karoo, the Hotel Manager insisted on seeing their
marriage certificate before giving them a room!
My
Mother taught me an early love for reading and for animals, particularly
cats. I remember been taken to see the premier screening of "Born
Free" and meeting Joy Adamson, who signed a copy of her book
for us. Another major highlight was going to the Kruger National
Park with my Mother and Grandmother.
When
my cat, Tiger, was dying of cat flu, Mum and I stayed up and nursed
him through the night for several days, giving him injections every
hour. Tiger survived to live a long life!
My
Mother was converted to Christ in 1978, about a year after myself.
She attended regular worship services at St. Stephens. In 1984,
my Dad was converted to Christ after suffering a heart attack and
stroke. For the next 2½ years, my Dad and Mom regularly attended
St. James Church of England in Kenilworth.
When
Dad died on Christmas Eve in 1986, Mum became something of a recluse.
It was very hard to get her out anywhere, but I managed to visit
her at least once a week, whenever I was in Cape Town.
In
the 90s, Mum went through several medical emergencies, needing
a hip replacement, some of her stomach was removed, tubes were fitted
into her leg to counter circulation problems, and finally her leg
needed to be amputated in February 1998.
It
was over 3½ years ago, that I stood at Mums bedside
in Claremont Hospital. She was on a lung machine, unconscious, dying
from the poison from her gangrene infected leg. It fell upon me
to sign the permission for the surgeon to amputate her leg. This
was a very hard decision to make, because my Mother had expressly
forbidden me to authorise any amputation. Like many medical people,
my Mum was a difficult patient. Yet, in hindsight, I can praise
God for that amputation, hard as it was at the time.
It
was especially hard for Mum, she lost her leg, her car, her job
at the surgery and her flat (which was on the 1st floor and there
was no lift, she would have to use the stairs), all in one go. But
so many good things, spiritually, came out of it. Mum moved into
our home, and Lenora and I began looking after her on a daily basis.
She became part of our daily devotions and meals, and joined us
at St. Andrews each Sunday, and began working regularly at the Frontline
Fellowship office. Mum grew so much spiritually over the last 3½
years. She enjoyed being with her grandchildren on a daily basis.
This
especially included Christopher, as Mum always rose to a medical
emergency. With Christophers chronic kidney failure, he needed
much care, and Mum spent many nights both at the hospital and at
home, sitting up and caring for him through the night. Mum also
seemed to really enjoy the work and the fellowship at the mission,
and the worship and sermons at St. Andrews, where she made some
precious friends. Mum would often enjoy discussing the sermons and
their implications. Mum had a keen mind, and would generally enjoy
a good argument or discussion.
In
July, Mum suffered her first heart attack and stroke, and was rushed
to Vincent Pallotti Hospital. Within three weeks, she had recovered
remarkably, and was back at home, in good enough time to celebrate
Christophers 6th birthday. Mum was particularly praising God
for how He has given such grace and strength to Christopher, to
beat all the medical predictions. Christopher was given no chance
of survival at birth, and then surprised all the doctors by making
a most remarkable recovery. They then said that he would definitely
need a kidney transplant by age 1 or 2. But now, to see Christopher
running around so full of energy and vitality, gave Mum immense
joy. As Mum said, Christopher was our "miracle boy", a
real answer to prayer.
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Over
the years, Mum handled scores of mailings from the Frontline
Fellowship office. In fact, she was in the office doing a
mailing just the Friday before we had to rush her to the hospital.
My
Mother died on 28 September, in the same hospital that I was
born in.
We
can only praise God, that God preserved my mother through
many years of bombings in World War II, and through the political
upheavals and terrorist wars against Rhodesia and South Africa.
If God had not spared Mum through the aerial bombings in Europe,
then neither Derek, nor I would have been born, nor Timothy,
Lauren, Andrea, Daniela, Christopher and Calvin. I dont
know if any of Mums 6 grandchildren are going to inherit
her love for nursing or medicine, but I do trust that we will
all maintain the love for reading, which she taught me so
early on. Most importantly, it is my prayer that each of us,
will learn to love the Lord Jesus Christ more each day, and
that we would grow to serve Him more effectively.
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Over the last 3½ years Mum worked as
a volunteer at the Frontline Fellowship
office, completing many scores of mailings.
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We
are all going to miss Mum very much. But I thank and praise God
that He gave us these last 3½ years. Because Mum could so
easily have died back early in 1998.
These
extra years of grace, have been such wonderful times of spiritual
growth, and we will all cherish many precious memories of Mum.
Mum
survived the Second World War, rose above adversity and overcame
prejudice and hostility in a foreign land where she was treated
as an enemy. She lived through tumultuous world events and turbulent
times in Southern Africa, suffered the loss of her husband of 31
years, endured much pain and overcame the physical disability of
losing a leg, to continue to give herself in service to others as
she had so long ago committed to do through the pledge of Florence
Nightingale.
I am
very grateful for all at Frontline Fellowship and at St. Andrews,
who were good friends to my Mother, and who went the extra mile
to help her and to make these last years of hers so enjoyable.
I am
particularly grateful to my precious wife, Lenora, who first suggested
building a cottage for Mum in our garden. It couldnt have
been easy caring for a mother-in-law with a disability, but Lenora
gave herself wholeheartedly to caring for Mum without complaining,
and joyfully
We
are all the better, and stronger, for having known Mum, and for
her love and example and inquiring mind. I know that what Mum would
most want, is that her children and grandchildren be faithful in
following, worshipping and serving our Lord Jesus Christ. May we
be faithful to Gods Word and to Gods work
We
grieve, because we have lost a mother and a grandmother, and because
it will be a long time until we see her again. But we also rejoice
in the blessed hope of the resurrection of the body at the day of
Christ Jesus. Death for the Christian is not fatal, nor is it final.
Jesus Christ is the Resurrection and the Life. Mum is now free of
pain, and when God raises her body, it will be whole and complete,
she will have both her legs, she will be free of every physical
affliction which she has had to endure for so many years here on
earth.
Many
religions believe in an after-life. But what is unique to Christianity
is the distinctive belief in the resurrection of the body. Christs
resurrection guarantees that those who die believing in Him, shall
one day be raised in His likeness to be with Him forever. Through
Christ, death has lost its sting. We can face death in the sure
knowledge that Christ has delivered us from the coming wrath and
from eternal judgement. I praise God, that my Mother knew the love
and salvation of our Lord Jesus Christ.
We
grieve, but we do not grieve as those who have no hope.
"Jesus
said: Whoever hears My Word, and believes Him who sent Me,
has eternal life and will not be condemned. He has crossed over
from death to life." John 5:24
Peter
Hammond
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